January 2012
3 posts
Manhate jr.
Can I just throw in a real quick something that has been bothering me lately? Why are people always giving the baby the name of the father? Does anyone else find this creepy and/or crazy?
Who is the one who carries that baby for 9 months with their swollen ass feet and acheing back? Who is the one that has that baby attached at the hip for the first few years? Who is the one that tends not to...
Stop stealing our good ideas
We had some elections in our union a few months ago, and of course, they want everyone to participate. On election day, a co worker of mine disgruntledly walked up to me while I was waiting for the morning elevator to take me up to the floor I work on.
“What’s up?” I asked as he was looking at me all weird.
“I’ve been awake since 3 o clock this...
a new year, a new day
I was thinking of trying something different for 2012. How many years can I really continue the angry dyke thing? In the end, it’s me who has to live with all these feelings and thoughts, so who am I really hurting? So I’ve decided to discontinue writing this blog, and maybe even give more men a chance. Try and move forward with my feelings and experiences, and not just throw every...
December 2011
1 post
A WOMAN COU-SHOULD NEVER BE PRESIDENT
At work a few weeks ago, I was told to build a soffit in the same room as my least favorite sexist. We were working within earshot of each other, which always preemptively embarrasses me on his behalf, and I left my headphones on hoping this would be at least a signal of some sort. After five or so minutes, I inevitably ended up in yet another annoying and boring conversation about his...
October 2011
4 posts
September 2011
1 post
August 2011
5 posts
opposite day strikes again
Something so funny happened at work today with the king of opposite day and ruler of ‘I wish women didn’t work with me land’- that it actually made my day. Which, honestly, has come to be the beauty of this blog; every time some asshole treats me like shit, acts horrible, takes up too much space, talks down to me or any women within earshot- i get to either photograph it or...
OPPOSITE DAY
Something I’ve noticed as a recurring theme in my dealings with men is they all like to pretend that anything they do is so hard- and anything that women are doing is easy. The weird thing about this is they have also managed to convince themselves of this even when we’re doing the same job.
Whenever I do something I have heard the guys complain about and say it wasn’t so...
VISUALS
I was using this thing we in the biz call a “shotgun” at work the other day while i was partnered with this guy who wears like wrap around tinted safety glasses with that weird safety cord dangling from the back. I don’t particularly love this guy I’m working with for a few reasons, one being that every time i mention anything about my girlfriend like for instance...
July 2011
6 posts
I want to mace you in the face
I’ve been working alone this week with my headphones on listening to NPR and pretending I work with people who have something interesting to say-so I’ve had almost no conversations with my co workers-good for me, bad for blog. But the train will always be the train- always the same old disgusting story.
I was listening to my headphones on my train ride home today, zoning out and...
Hoochie Beach
Yesterday I overheard a conversation that was half disturbing and half weird by two guys at work. One of the guys I really hate. He’s the only man that I have considered bringing up on sexual harassment charges so far. I won’t go into the details of why necessarily, but it had something to do with a lot of inappropriate language and saying disgusting things about women to me. The...
Who runs the world?
Have you ever felt like you were just “running shit?” Like ruling everything ? Did you know that that might not be something that feels real to you in that moment- but according to most men in construction- that IS real. That is a REAL THING. Sisters! We apparently rule everything. “Ruling the world” to be more specific. But it’s so weird, cuz i like never feel...
amanda
I was walking onto a floor that I wasn’t working on yesterday, hot and tired as one usually feels when they wake up at the devil’s hour and start their day on a job site that feels like it is somehow extremely close to the sun. I was looking for a bundle of material to bring downstairs with me when I saw some crazy looking guy doing some weird faggy wave at me coupled with some intense...
June 2011
11 posts
fishing, bbq'ing, you know- man stuff
There’s a guy I’ve been working with lately who always asks me ”you know what I mean?” when he finishes talking about something, and when i say “yeah (barely listening fake smile)” he replies “no you don’t.” Do you know how fucking annoying this is to hear all day?
Anyway, this guy asked me about my weekend, and by ‘asking’ I mean...
women don't work
I was working in a hospital for a while in the upper east side- not as a doctor as you may have assumed- but renovating a few floors as a carpenter. The hospital was still occupied and open, so when we had deliveries to bring in or needed to move material, we had to use the elevators that regular people and hospital staff were also using. Which is of course annoying cuz you’re both on...
31 and gay
Yesterday at work this pretty nerdy guy who tends to laugh really hard at the “jokes” he tells came up to me while I was doing some framing and was like “so, how old are you?” to which i responded “31.” His next question (which is so obvious) was “married?” to which I responded “gay.” He was like “excuse me what?” and so I...
“You know who you look like…”
I can’t tell you how many men have lurked around the job site to find me and ask me this. I usually respond with “Sinead O’Connor Demi Moore.” It’s always one of the two, always. These are like the only two women they’ve seen on television with a shaved head. In my opinion, I look as similar to Demi Moore and...
May 2011
17 posts
MAN COUNTRY
At work yesterday there was a silence between my partner and I while we were working, and I was thinking ‘I wonder what he’s thinking. Can I imagine anything at all that might be running through his head right this second?” I mean, maybe I couldn’t actually do this with anyone on the planet in reality, but at that moment I was like no- no I can’t think for one single...
Manhate
And also- I wish there were more curse words specific to men. Yes i know, I’m just ‘stooping down to their level’ but i could really give a shit. What’s this all about? I can think of like 5 nasty words that were specifically designed to insult women, but what do I have for men? dick? Are you kidding- they love that. Anything that makes them reminded that they have a...
please tell me for cancer
Today was like a quadruple whammy with manoration, but I will just say this one other thing cuz it’s like so funny and crazy. This one little short guy at work came up to me a few months ago and was like “why did you shave your head?” Now i wear a hard hat at work, and it may appear that I have a shaved head what with my cutting edge attitude and non traditional career and...
site safety
For some weird and illegitimate reason, I went to bed feeling slightly guilty about this blog. Like thinking- these guys have some good qualities, they’re not bad people I don’t think- just obnoxious and arrogant and entitled and clueless or whatever. So when I got into work this morning I was like trying to act normal even though I was feeling weirdly guilty (because I am a woman...
just say no
Something happened today at work that has happened like tons of times before, and I figured I’d write about it because I would probably bet my eyebrows that this has happened to you before. (You being a woman). I was working with my partner (and for those of you who don’t know me I am not using a fancy gay term for my girlfriend- i work construction and we work in pairs), and I...
MANCAVE
Today at work, my coworker who keeps telling me “you need to learn how to laugh” was telling me about his ‘mancave’ that he built in his house. I stopped paying attention halfway through his story (the guy talks like he has 14 marbles in his mouth), but what I gathered was that a man apparently needs his own space (?). I mean i thought they had their own space and it was...
Why aren't there women only trains?
Watching men on the train I realize there’s an ever pervasive mantality happening called “CONSTANT COMFORT.” This may stem from an idea of feeling completely entitled to being comfortable all the time, anywhere, everywhere, forever more- and at anyones cost. Hey you know what? Good idea- just spread those legs, stand in front of an opening and closing door being used by...
Actually- you're just not funny
I like it how guys think I need to “lighten up” or need to “get a sense of humor” just because I don’t find them specifically funny. The thing is- I don’t find a lot of men funny. I don’t find humor at other people’s expense funny generally, I don’t find sexist, fatphobic, ableist, racist, or classist humor funny. I don’t appreciate...
BAD MANTALITY
I’m starting blog so my posts don’t begin to get hidden by my friends on facebook. So I don’t have to feel like i might implode everyday and so I don’t have to start yelling at my mother when I am telling her “what’s been going on with me” on any given day. I’m sure my therapist will tell me this is a bad idea once i mention it to her- but what does...